We’re a 50’s couple who have been together 37, married 28 years. We have an amazing life and sex life together. I’ve had an attraction to men for a long time which I have never acted on. I kept it hidden as I love my wife and family with everything I have.

Kids are now grown and gone and 2 years ago, I decided it was time to act, so I told my wife I was bi. She was surprised but felt she always knew I was “different”. Anyways, discussions went very well and she was open to us exploring in our bedroom. We bought dildoes, a strap on and we started role playing. She took to it like a duck to water. She literally loves playing with my ass which is just so freakin awesome after years of self satisfaction. We did discuss the “opening” of our marriage but she shut that down immediately and I was absolutely fine with that especially with our newfound bedroom life.

Two nights ago, we were on our second bottle of bubbles, talking sex and she says she has something to tell me. She says she’s been thinking about this for a long time but she now feels she’s secure enough to allow me to explore my bi side!

To say I was floored was a massive understatement. I literally struggled to talk for a minute or so. My mind was racing (kinda still is TBH). She has always strongly maintained that we will remain monogamous regardless. I had to probe her as to what has changed her mind. She said that I have always showered her in love, always put her and the family first, always focused on whatever it takes to make our relationship the amazing thing it is. She also said she is now extremely secure with us and she knows there is no one on this earth I love more than her (she’s right). She doesn’t want me to go through life without the experience.

We then talked until 3am. In the morning, she reiterated her stance and we spent most of the day talking on and off about it. One thing we did work out immediately is she will be there to watch as this is going to be an us thing not just me (She absolutely loves watching me throat our 7” dildo).

We then decided our very first step would be this post. We would love to hear from couples who have gone through this exploration with stories of both good and bad. We figure the more we experience others journeys, the more we can figure out what will and what won’t work for us.

So please share how your life went/is when you opened on one side. Happy to accept chat via dm if you’d rather not share here.