My husband and I opened up our marriage about 8 months ago because he came out as bi and wanted to explore his sexuality. I was and still am fully supportive of his exploration outside of our marriage. However, he has been dating a guy for almost the whole time we’ve been open. Let’s call him T.

I have been dating here and there myself, but haven’t found anyone as long term and seemingly secure as my husband’s relationship with T. I have met T and he is truly a nice guy and very thoughtful and kind. Although my husband will not admit it, I feel as though he is in love with T. He claims that he loves me as his wife and the relationship he has with T is a “caring” friendship.

I must admit. I am jealous of the depth of their connection.

T also has a girlfriend with whom he’s been on again, off again. T is thinking about moving in with her again after a tumultuous breakup that took place awhile back. Knowing this is causing my husband anguish about the possibility of his relationship ending with T.

And yet, as T is going through this, he is still dating my husband and texting him all the time.

As of late, my husband and I haven’t been having sex. He claims that I approach him too late at night and he’s tired. I also am not asking for sex directly enough.

Has anyone else gone through this with their husband? Is it possible for him to love us both? I feel as though my husband and I don’t feel as close as we once were. I know this is to be expected but I never thought my husband would find this type of connection so quickly.

I’m not sure where I am going here but wondering if I could get some perspective from bi husbands on this sub. Is it possible to love your wife and another partner too? Right now, I just don’t know where I fit in this equation.