My husband (46) texted this to me a few weeks back. He followed up by saying I was a great mom but he no longer wants anything to do with me as a wife. Initially I thought he was just angry and blowing off steam (we had had what I thought was a minor argument earlier in the day leading up to the text),but he has not returned to our bedroom and has treated me very coldly ever since (for example, he refuses to eat dinner with me and goes out of his way to make mean comments). He will not talk about any of it it. Im pretty flummoxed about the best response. Thus far I've just said "I think you are speaking in pain. I hear you. I love you and I am standing still. If you still feel this way when you're not angry, I fully accept this but I think you are angry right now so I would rather not respond while you are feeling like this." If he's angry and just hurting I would like to stay in the marriage but if I'm just not his cup of tea, that's a different story. He hasn't filed for divorce (yet).

Has anyone else been able to pull their marriage out of this kind of rut?