Wife and I have been married 7 years, been together 8. Both of our second marriages. Her past was a physical and emotional abusive ex- husband and mine was a 5X cheating ex-wife! When we first met she had a few male “friends” for a few years. I wouldn’t say FWB but she slept with at least one trying to see if there was anything there. That story didn’t come out right away but It did, and I totally understand. The one she slept with just disappeared the minute we started dating, the second hung around for a short time, the three of us would go out for drinks, and he would manipulate her time, talking to her quietly, leaning in to her ear and just non-stop talking to her, so I couldn’t hardly get a word in. I expressed my feelings to my then girlfriend and I thought (at the time) she understood, because she would put me in between them so we would all be in the convo. After a few months, we were all supposed to get together and do a show for New Years, we decided to spend the time with her sister instead and just do dinner by ourselves. He from the point on ghosted her. She was a little upset but seemed fine, of course our relationship was flourishing I had just proposed so we were on a high. From time to time he would comment on FB and we have even hung out twice in the last 8 years, which went fine. But they never kept in touch. Until about a two weeks ago. He got on snap and they started snapping each other. She didn’t tell me for about a week. She said she was afraid to tell me. I was a little surprised but not angry. She said she would tell me when the spoke. Then we both were probably pretty drunk and I said something about it. Not sure what it was but obviously enough to set her off. We fought for a week she told him I didn’t like it and told him she was mad at me. He told her if I was uncomfortable then they needed to stop. There was a rough week, of communication and connection between us, and over the weekend it came up again. She said she had been talking to him again, sending pictures from the past. But she kept it from me again because she was afraid of upsetting me. She said she was excited to be talking to him again, that there was nothing there and that he was there for her during tough times and it felt good to talk to him. So I lashed out a little. I felt like she hasn’t been close to me for months because of things she’s going through and now she’s getting support and happiness from another guy that ditched her prior. Know she is saying there lack of friendship is as much might fault as it was his because I was very jealous. Ultimately I was ok with their friendship when I started dating her, he was there and I was ok with it, I just hated how when we would go out it was always her talking to him because she felt bad he was “alone”. I guess I just needed to vent, I was told no wonder why my ex left me. Feeling very lost inside right now, absolutely love and adore my wife, but totally feeling alone.