What can I do about having a picky husband? It has made me develop low self esteem.

My husband has never thought I can do anything right almost throughout our 20 years of marriage. I am referring to our sex life mostly. He thinks I am boring in the bedroom, the porn I would want to watch with him is boring, my ‘pillow talk’ is boring, and I can’t even pick out lingerie for fear that he didn’t like it.

Well, he’s no great shakes either. He doesn’t know how to do anything if you know what I mean.

All of this has made it so we’ve given up in the bedroom and I am worried about having a sexless marriage for the rest of my life. Maybe we’re just incompatible??