What is it that steers a wife away from passionate sex after being married for so long? The love is still there, the partnership and connection is still there, the want to be around each other is still there. But the sex, the sex is limited. Like a chore most of the time. Boring with the lack of passion. Every now and then it’s spicy and hot and passionate and good. But most of the time it’s less than satisfying. Some times a month will pass with out any sexual affection at all. Even still I only want her, even tho I’m ridiculously horny most of the time and I can’t have what I want unless it’s done like a chore. Which is extremely unsatisfying. But I love her and I know sex is not worth what she is worth to me. I would never cheat, but I do wonder how somebody can just never be horny. I don’t understand. Is she having a sexual affair? Or are her excuses like she’s so tired or she just doesn’t have the drive honest reasons. Can you ladies help me out? My goal is to understand her. I just want to get it.