My 37F husband 34M and I have had a troubled marriage in the 2 years we've been together. 5 weeks ago, he abandoned our home and then filed for divorce 2 weeks after that. He now, is willing to try to talk to work things out. Here are some of our issues:

In short, I noticed from our wedding night that husband has a lack of interest and almost an aversion to intimacy. I think this is caused by anti-depressant meds. He is usually not interested, and when he is, he is not adventurous, does not seek to please me. We started off with me explaining why it is not ok for him to "leave me hanging". He seemed to not understand that sex is for mutual pleasure. He does not like to kiss; backs away from me or turns his head when I try to reach out to him. We do not seriously touch each other, sometimes, for days and days on end. I wouldn't call it a dead bedroom, but more of a very limited one.

He seems to struggle with others' perceptions of him. He frequently makes comments about things being "unmanly". Also struggles with maturity, I think. I know lots of guys make jokes about farting, but the types of things he says are almost teenage in nature. Frequently he yells out that people on tv are "dweebs, dorks, or fatso, etc." It's just weird. Also, he has not cut the apron strings. His mother lives 5 hours away from us, and he wants to continue to visit her once a month for the entire weekend, as he did when he was single. I can go or stay at home. She openly tells the family she does not like me over some very thin-skinned reasons. To my face, she is very kind. She is encouraging him to divorce me.

He won't share his food, ice cream, etc. with me. Generally not very interested in doing lots of activities with me, would rather stay at home. We do have fun watching tv, board games, and going to restaurants or movies.

If I ask him to tell me something sweet, or why we got married, I either get nothing or something general like, he likes my eyes, my hair, or that he enjoyed going bowling with me. I can't get him to go deep beneath the surface.

The reasons I have mentioned have caused me to resent him and be quite angry a lot of the time, especially the intimacy issues. Because of this, he views me as a contentious wife who has a bad temperament. There is NOT one thing on this list I haven't talked to him about.

The good things: He does often say nice things, we have common interests, I never fear he's cheating. He works hard, supports my family and my goals, helps me with chores, and generally has a positive attitude. He will literally buy or do almost anything to make me happy. If I so much as mention that I'd like to have something, it is as good as purchased, no questions asked. He's not buying my love, and we do love each other. He and I are both willing to go to counseling, individual, and together.

Thoughts?