If you've been following along, I am prego (yay?🙃 Starting to cheer about it). After some lengthy conversations, we have decided to go ahead with the pregancy. So far, so good. We're both working towards having both a healthy child and a healthier marriage.

Hubs is 20 years older than me. His kids (from a previous marriage) are my age. My son is 8. I'm ok with that. So is he. We talked and we wanted this child.

My question is two-fold, well more like a question and observation for opinions.

Part A: What would you say to people who point out: 1. He will be in his 70's when our son (we want a boy) graduates. 2. People will mistake him for Grandpa when he goes to his school. 3. He's too old to be changing diapers. 4. He won't be able to keep up. 5. You're suppose to be a GRANDparent at your age, not a PARENT. 6. (the one that hurts him he says) I thought you were smarter than that at YOUR age. 7. (For me, the most hurtful) Aren't you scared you'll die before you see him grow up/you'll be a single mom. All of which we discussed, plus more when we decided to get prego.

Part B: I'm starting to feel hubs is embarrassed. Ex: Yesterday, our neighbour and his friend asks him is it true. His response was the wife (me) got baby fever cuz all my friends are having kids (which is weird. 3 friends and one sister are all due in spring but that's not why WE are due at the end of summer) and we talked about it so he gave me what I wanted. * I did call him out saying oh I got baby fever, huh? He laughs and makes a witty remark. BUT! That's not the first time he's deflected the baby news on me too, like I wanted it when it was WE who wanted it (honestly, more him than me. My son from a previous relationship is 8 and I was just starting to enjoy having more independence and things that come with being nearly child-free). I've noticed I say we decided but he says it's me... Could it be he's embarrassed due to the questions we get and discussions we've had? It does feel that way...

Now, please make them good and sarcastic. I really want it to sting. Obviously, age is not an indicator of parental skills/ability. Incidently, hubs is in great shape and very active with no immediate health risks or chronic illnesses... (obviously we're knocked up like literally right when we decided to get knocked up). It's been a trying time as it is and now we just want to be as happy as we can, atleast I do. He says he chose our house because he wanted a child and he's very excited even though he doesn't express it. It bugs me that people are so intrusive. I'm not even sure if it's well-meaning at this point. Maybe it's just me, but it feels negative and ill-intentioned... I don't want to be nice and diplomatic about it. I want something better to say other than ouch that hurts, we're excited to parent together, and we thought of that, thanks for your concern (all answers I've given currently). Plus, I want to help him not be embarrassed. I'm used to being an odd duck doing odd duck stuff. I'm not so sure about him. He says he doesn't care what others think, but answering like that seems to me like he does...