Basically title. My wife is a nurse so she has random schedules and is basically never home. But she still wants our daughter to play sports and do activities after school. Ok, good.

The problem: well, I also work a job that is 6 days a week. I have told my wife before that if she signs our daughter up for basket ball, I cannot take her, because I'm working. So I told her, please do not sign our daughter up for sports if you can't take her, because I am working. But she does it anyway.

My wife expects me to "figure it out and take her anyway" so then, when the kid has a practice....I simply don't take her because I'm at work (the kids are at grandmas house, and grandparents too old to shuttle kid to sports)

Every single night after a missed practice, wife comes home from her nursing job and literally screams at me at the top of her lungs. I mean literally screaming so loud I am not sure how the cops haven't been called. Because I didn't take her to basketball.

I think she is going through some kind of mental health crisis at this point and she's ruining the mental health of the kids as well as myself. My daughter told her even "mom i dont want to play sports its ok I know you cant take us" and she just screams at her about how I'm a loser or whatever.

I'm given like 7 days of PTO a year. And 2 weeks of non-paid time off. I can't "just leave work" I don't even have enough PTO/non paid days to cover ONE season of sports practices. So even theoretically if I used all those days up, I'd only get like 2/3rd thru ONE season of basketball, not to mention the spring/summer sports seasons.

I looked into hiring a baby sitter who can shuttle kids to sport but they don't exist.