guys majpr dilemma help sought - marraige n might b lifetime decision - 45m saying yes to 42F this month for marriage.

Without any negative connotations or
sounding 'crude', here are some relevant facts :

1. 45 M never married,
   resonably attractive and younger looking (38-40). not many friends right now
   but that is by choice as busy with work/business/chill time. While I have been
   playing around but not cheated, I intend to be fully faithful in future as
   well. Intend to provide anyone I marry lot of respect and good lifestyle. Sick
   of searching lol

2. family been trying to
   organise arranged marriage back home (settled in first world country with own
   paid off house in metro city). USD $150K job. over 2mn usd net worth. basically
   debt free as listened to smart advice. usually arranged marraiges are lifetime
   with 1-2% divorces but it is going up now in India and indians abroad as well -
   lots of divorce cases popping up.

3. Prefer to marry
   younger child bearing age under 38F, family oriented and faithful type (I
   intend to do the same). Prefer someone flexible to move between india and first
   world capital cities.

options -

option 1- I have on hand
is a 42 yr old woman who our family know through relatives and they suggest she
is from good family and seems like descent girl (however, her father is closed
off to communication much unless i travel to india to meet her second time -
that will confirm my interest level to him as he is apprehensive. we met only briefly
twice). She is a nice person to chat with and was carrying herself well when we
met in person couple of times. I have met her 2 yrs ago but not after that and
I did not say immediate 'Yes' and they said well this means the man is not
serious so we dont allow our daughter to keep communicating (this is 1 version
how arranged marriages are done in India). Fast forward 2 years I am still
looking and she is still looking however, other options not so good as I prefer
child bearing aged women under 38. some indian women dont want to move abroad
and think I am too old or some others we do not feel comfortable as they might
be fraud with bad intentions - visa/$$ or just might not be faithful (while I
have been playing around but not cheated, I intend to be fully faithful in
future as well).

Key points I have to work
with are

a. her age is of utmost
concern as shes 42 and I want biological children of own

b. Her father is 'rich'
but she is poor - her father might be usd 20 mn worth but she doesnt get any
inheritance - this means she's demanding new apartment $1mn but she is not
working and not contributing to assets either. No chance of a pre-nup either.
her expectations are rich lifestyle.

c. she practically a
virgin by the sounds of it - most certainly will keep a hawk eye on me so I
dont 'go out' by myself - this is good n seems like we will keep faithful.

d. She's not keen to move
out of india but agreed to it given she dont have choice - my career options
are mostly restricted to overseas and maybe I move to india in future.

1. 45 M good person in
   general and kindda spiritual

2. other options - seems very scant but I havent explored much outside india - India
   'marriage market' is really tough for guys and girls not keen for 45 yr old and
   someone who do not have plans to move india immediately. Also, hard to find
   someone in the first world country as I havent been looking much and also need
   a respectable person to marry. Where do I look and how if I go down this path ?
   honesly I am sick of looking and inclined to say yes to avoid mental trauma to
   me n family - this might leave me in another hole of no kids, bad marraige and
   divorce but so be it ! or I shouldnt ??? or should I just not look and stay
   single and wait for it to happen - I might be 50 n single still n later it
   happens, worst it gets ?

key dilemma's :

Should I marry this 42 yr
old ? - Y or N.

If Y, should I insist on
being able to talk/communicate to her as a condition of me travelling to meet
her ? Should I insist on having a 'cooling off' period - they insist they want
no engagement but straigh marriage (seems they in rush for offsprings)

If N, should I decline
and move to finding new ones and what is the possiblity of finding some
reasonable/marriageable ladies (I know I risk getting even worse options).
Where should I go looking ?

I am almost about to say
yes to 42 yr old half heartedly (I know not ideal but she's ms right now rather
than ms right) - so any advice appreaciated !

Thanks a lot ! apologies
if I sound crude but I have to put the facts out there as it is lifetime
decision ! sorry, not sorry. Constructive feedback only pleaseee !

cheers,