Gonna keep it simple. I love my wife and have been married 21 years. Our sex drives are waaaay different, and always have been. Once a month if I'm lucky. It took me years to figure out it wasn't me that was the issue. I also have a kink I discovered that she "tried" and made clear that she didn't like. I respect her and I never brought it up a second time. I have tried for YEARS to get her to tell me, if anything, what she finds a turn on. I have tried to get her and I professional help, no success. I don't want to divorce her, nor do I want to cheat on her. Porn is, meh, no physical or emotional intimacy.

Lastly, remember your mother's words, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all". I received enough hate from other sub reddits along the lines of: Men = "Your marriage is over, move on", Women = "You are a horrible person and your wife deserves better". I dont need nor want poetry advice. I am well aware it isn't great. It is just what I wrote to exspress my feelings, I'm not looking to publish the damn thing. Anyone else here identify?

Horrible Maze.

Have you ever felt trapped in a horrible maze.

With no way out though you've been searching for days.

In total darkness nerves now are frayed.

You move wall to wall hands are reaching out splayed.

Touching cold stones to feel out your way.

But going in circles no progress is made.

You scream out loud but no hope is raised.

You run fingers through hair head hung in dismay.

Was that a sound behind you or is your mind in a haze.

Will madness descend mind tricks on display.

While hallucinations jump about to dance and to play.

Tears are streaming down heavy to mix with this craze.

Your sanity is slipping and sliding away.

But there's one lucid moment amidst mind in disarray

You remember an exit involving your blade.

One simple cut across your wrist to invade.

Walls and floor are now wet with your blood that has sprayed.

But the exit is now found death's call is obeyed.

Your heart stops beating quickly without a delay.

One final thought as your eyes start to fade.

You are finally free from this horrible maze.