My wife (29f) and I (28m) have been married for 3 years, together for 6 years. We have a fantastic marriage, we never fight (unless it’s small trivial arguments), cheating has never been an issue, we get along great, we travel the world 2-4 times a year with a lot of smaller trips in the middle, our income is around 500k a year so we pretty free to do whatever we like when ever we want. We also have some what of an alternative Sex life (we share the bedroom together with others, not often but sometimes)

My wife is really really really ready to have children. When I was younger 17-20 yrs, I was all about having a family and it sounded great. Now that I’m an Adult, have every freedom I’ve ever wanted, a home I own, a business I own, quiet, financial security, a perfect Marriage, ability to travel. To me, children just ruin all of this. This has been a point of contention in our relationship, we don’t fight over it or anything, we are able to have good healthy constructive conversations about it and try to see each others side. I can see why she wants them, I get it. But for the life of me I can’t see the bright side. I know that if I don’t have them I’ll end up probably losing the best thing that’s happened to me, My Wife. I want to make her happy and give her everything she has ever wanted. But in my eyes, bringing a child into this will completely change the dynamic we have now and I can’t see any positives. Less sleep, less free time, loss of autonomy, lack luster sex life, stress, pain, the list goes on and on for me. I really need someone to be upfront with me and help me work through this. I’m just so sick of people saying “it’s so rewarding”. That all I ever hear. So please, give me something real to work with here, it’s all I can think about and it’s stressing me the fuck out lol.