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Hey everyone, I’m in a bit of an unusual situation and need some advice. My husband and I have only been married for a few months, and things have been great so far. We’ve always had a healthy, open relationship when it comes to talking about our desires and fantasies.
Recently though, he’s been bringing up this new fantasy that I wasn’t expecting. He told me he gets turned on by the idea of me cheating on him. At first, I was really confused and a bit taken aback because, to me, cheating is the last thing I’d ever consider in real life. I love him and our commitment to each other, but now he’s hinting at it more often, and it’s kind of becoming a recurring theme in our bedroom talk.
We’ve never had any trust issues, and our relationship is strong, but I’m not sure how to navigate this. Is this something other couples have dealt with? I want to be supportive of his fantasies, but I don’t want to go down a road where this starts to affect our trust or feelings for each other.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you handle it? I don’t want to judge him, but I also don’t know how comfortable I am with the idea.
That’s not true and I know it from my own personal experience and many other couples we’ve met in the lifestyle. It’s definitely not for everyone and of course there are horror stories but what you’re saying is nonsense.
The nonsense comment is mostly directed at the comment about it only works in new relationships that started out kinky. It’s actually the opposite, long term relationships with established trust and excellent communication are the ones that can handle the lifestyle.
The scenario you described is one established swingers try to avoid. There is nothing worse than meeting a couple where the husband is over zealous and it’s clear he’s dragging his wife along.
Again I’m not saying swinging is for everyone and nobody should be badgering their spouse to do it if they don’t want to. However the idea that it always ends up in damaged relationship’s or divorce is nonsense.
You also get a skewed view of it if you’re basing your opinion on what you read in advice subs. People go to those subs when they’re having problems, the successful couples don’t need advice.
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There are also whole subs filled with people talking about their cuckold and hot wife experiences in a positive light. Of course you ignore those stories bc they blow up your ridiculous narrative.
If you’re in an unhealthy marriage and you try it, I agree it will make things worse. However people in loving healthy marriages can and do enjoy this kink.