My wife and I will be together 10 years in November, been.married just over 7 years. My wife hasn't really had a full time or permanent job in the time we've been together. She started perimenopause quite early after having our son. She has tried many jobs but never stuck to many saying it exhausts her. I have been the breadwinner but in recent months my business hasn't been performing well and it's led to a lot of debt. I need to add that I've funded 2 business for my wife the first costing me over £50k and this recent one £20k. The £50k one was abandoned after 6 months. She blames me for all our debt, but she hasn't contributed to the household. She was in receipt of benefits to top up earnings and paid for kids swimming lessons and after school care if required. She is a very anxious person and I've probably been wrong in keeping the extent of our finances from her. I did it not wanting to worry her but I accept this has been a terrible mistake. She says it's over and that she can't cope with my dishonesty. I've only ever tried to provide for my family and this time I've messed up. I think I may have ADHD and this might explain why I'm so bad with finances, but it's not an excuse. Just needed to vent so sorry for rambling. If anyone has any advice please comment.