Separation is biblical Paul advised couples can separate for a time Also by staying you enable his sin He cant do the sin if you aren't there to do it to (not blame shifting, giving her justification to not enable) So, you remove the enable he will PROBABLY after the begging come back etc say baby just forgive and you say get real help he'll get mad, don't answer just ignore Then he will cheat These guys dont last long without attention and validation he will look for it somewhere else My ex husband remarried 6 months after we separated His 2nd wife was dead 1 year later she crawled into a bottle puking blood in the toilet to escape he told her go to the hospital she said what the fuck do you care I'll be away from you I know you think he will change But this is not love its power dependency, hes dependent on the power If he loves you he will get real help My ex said this is him he has had anger issies his whole life too That means he is saying I accept me the way I am I dont care about changing deal with it That is his choice You dont have to stay He is flat up telling you I dont love you enough to try, deal with it so deal with it I know this is hard God does NOT want you to live like this He is hurting God by hurting you, who God loves Imagine how you would feel if he did it to the kids God is your father Thats how He feels about you This is HIS problem God commands a LOT about do not curse others He is doing that The tongue is called a sword for evil in the bible In Gods eyes he is stabbing you with a sword God is NOT on his side in this Love your wife as your own flesh No one who loved God can hate their own flesh When you married, 2 became 1 flesh, he is hating his own flesh, he cannot love God and do this God is NOT on his side in this Its ok to leave Let no man, including the husband, tear asunder He is TEARING your marriage It said NO man, not no man except the husnand God meant him too in that He is commanded to be Christlike This is not Christlike God repeatedly says do not associate with people like him So not associating is obeying God Your husband is not in your corner but GOD, your Bridegroom IS You were made to be a gift to him not a gift he can spit on Some men gotta learn the hard way Its hard to see when you're in it, God helped me see after. HE was angry about me staying so long, hurt that I let my ex hurt me and God This is his shit on the floor not yours God is a divorcee Israel did not keep its covenant with God, so God initiated divorce with Israel Hubby is not keeping covenant with you So, take a page from Gods book He is Israel, not keeping his covenant God took Israel back but AFTER Israel fixed their shit See the bible isn't cherry pick like google and church wants to think Men conveniently leave these things out when quoting it about marriage The bible says that man has no excuse because their hearts know wrong when someone does it to them. You know its wrong, that hes doing this, he knows it, and God knows it. I know he has stood against you, time for Gods word to stand up for you. God told the Pharisees that they kept the letter of the law but threw the heart of it away, the love part. He is a God of CONTEXT. Jesus said they used the law to throw out mercy, love, justice, compassion, protection of the weak, helping the helpless, so Jesus called them vipers who would not flee the wrath to come. Only onw without sin can cast a stone at you for leaving, not people, not your husband, not reddit, not your church, and not the enemy. Only Jesus is without sin. The bible backs YOU in this.