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Me (39M) and my wife (31F) have been together for 6 years and have a solid marriage. A few months ago we were watching an erotic French or Italian movie (dont remember name) with a threesome scene with a guy, his wife, and another woman. I made a comment on the lines of "this guy is living the dream", wife (she's bisexual) also said the scene was really hot. It just got us talking about that stuff and she asked me if i was into it, and i said that i'd likely not actively pursue or ask for a threesome but if it happened it'd be sexy. Then we just moved on to other things and forgot about it.
Yesterday in bed, my wife brought up the movie and said she's been thinking about it for a while and she's interested in having a threesome. I was quite surprised but asked her to go on and she said that though she has some experience of having sex with other women, for a while she's been a bit curious and wanted to be with another woman and man at the same time, even watched some FFM threesome porn secretly. And she has a friend Katie (25F) (also bi) who she talked to about this and she's up for doing it with us if we want. She asked me to think about it and let her know if I actually want to go ahead. Honestly, it sounds really hot and like a dream, specially since Katie is very hot, but I don't want to think with my dick.
Couples who have some experience with threesomes, do you have any tips? Things I should say/do/prepare or something else?
A lot of people will tell you not to do because they've heard horror stories but the common denominator in those stories is lack of communication. If you want to do it, do it BUT please listen to my advice. I have done threesomes with partners and even help others couples navigate how to approach threesomes.
1.) Make sure this is something you and your wife really want. Fantasies can and should sometimes just be fantasies.
2.) Understand what kind of threesome this is. Is your wife looking for an outlet to engage in her bisexual side? Are you allowed to touch the other woman? Are you allowed to have sex with her?
3) How is communication handled and if this is something that is enjoyed by all parties, how will you all be moving forward after? Also, does this open the potential for a MFM threesome and are you comfortable with that?
I always personally recommend that no matter how comfortable your wife thinks she would be with seeing you with another woman in front of her, DO NOT touch the other woman on the first encounter. That first time should be your wife and the other woman primarily focusing on each other with you focusing on your wife. She needs to be comfortable with you even looking at another naked woman in front of her. Even in the heat of the moment if she says she wants you to fuck the other woman, DONT. Make it a hard no on the first encounter.
Evaluate after the first time and adjust extremely slowly from there.
Trust me, the couples that take the proper steps handle this easily.
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