I’m stuck in a loveless toxic bad marriage. We’ve been married for 13 years. We have two children together. I’m 45 years old and she is almost 49 years old. Things weren’t always bad. Basically, I’m the only one in the house that goes to work to help move us forward. I pay the house payment, the property taxes, the gas bill, the water bill, the light bill, the cable bill, cell phone bill, entertainment, food, clothes, toys, car repair, insurance, etc.

I only have a high school diploma. My wife has college degrees. But she refuses to work. When I met her, she was going to school to become a teacher and then all of a sudden because she couldn’t get her license. She doesn’t want to go to work or do anything. By default she became a housewife. But the house is a total mess. She refuses to clean or do anything. She makes my dinners at 8 or 9 PM at night just an hour or so before I go to bed which I don’t like. I told her I want 6 PM, but she doesn’t care and does her own thing. She lives in a world of delusion and always pins herself as the victim when I call her out on this. The only thing she does is take and pick up my kids from school and even when she takes them or picks them up, she’s always late.

The house is in my name alone. I’m glad I did that. She has brought so many animals into my house. It’s ridiculous. She cares more about the animals than our own kids. Don’t get me wrong. I love animals, but there’s way too many in the household. She wants to live in a nicer house in a better neighborhood and wants the better things in life when everything falls on my shoulders and she doesn’t do anything to help. She has gotten so brazen with me that she’s gotten in my face and trying to get physical with me. I let that go a couple of times before I had to defend myself. I told her if she’s this unhappy in our marriage just to leave and go back to her mom and dad’s house since they allow her to be a bum.

She tells me that we’re married and blah blah blah blah blah like she just doesn’t wanna leave my house. She told me the day that she ever does decide to leave my house that she’s taking the kids with her. I told her my kids too, and I’ve done everything right by them to support them and take care of them. I told her she can’t even take care of herself. She tells me she’s going to rely on child support from Me to take care of the kids while she doesn’t work. I own my own home, I have a good pay job, with medical benefits, a 401(k), the kids school and life is here. She just can’t take them away from me as I have rights too. I can provide for them and she can’t. My question is what would you do if you were me in the situation? If she ever has the guts to leave my house and she tries to take the kids what should I do? Should I call the police and they intervene and tell her not to take them? We’re not even intimate anymore and I’ve told her I went to find somebody to mess around with since you can’t even do that. She is very manipulative, has a victim complex, holds no accountability in life, blames me, and others for anything that goes wrong and I’m just sick of this.I tried to schedule something with the marriage counselor and she refuses to go.