This can be for anyone but more directly as a husband asking opinions of wives.

Our anniversary is fast approaching and we always take a week off together. This year we are traveling and enjoying some quiet time to ourselves.

We budgeted for everything we’re doing and looking forward to the trip. We had discussed that this was the gift. No other gifts would be purchased. I’m also not stupid. I had already purchased a necklace and other small gifts. Not a big deal. I have also gone a little overboard. It started with just small things and has escalated. I have no will power when it comes to finding things that I think will make her happy. Most of it is just silly stuff that I see for a fairly decent price.

So this week gifts started arriving at the house. We are horrible about not being able to hide things for each other. I started giving her little things once a day, one day was a wine tumbler, another day was a set of shot glasses she had her eye on. Nothing overly crazy, just fun stuff that will sit in her amazon cart for years. It’s like a 12 days of Christmas but for our anniversary.

She is not upset but not happy because she feels like she’s not matching my gift giving. In all the time we’ve been married, she knows she’s all the gift I need. I don’t want her to feel bad and the quality of things gets better as we get to our anniversary. I enjoy doing it and expect nothing in return. I’ve never been like this in previous relationships and I know she’s not about needing the material things to be happy.

My question to the husbands and wives is would this upset you or would you enjoy being given a silly gift like this leading up to an anniversary or other special occasion? Money is not an issue and most of these gifts are $30 or less. There are a few things in there for us both to enjoy and some his and her stuff as well. Is it too much and how do I get her to believe I really don’t need any gifts myself?