As the title says, I don't help my wife with anything. I don't help with the dishes, I don't help with the laundry, or cleaning the kitchen. I don't help with bath time for the kiddos, or teeth brushing, or bed time.

That said, she doesn't help me with yard work, or house maintenance. She doesn't help with maintaining the vehicles, or any of the other numerous projects that both I've started and she's wanted started.

We are a team, we win together, we lose together, we fail together and we succeed together. We get two paychecks, and while her name is on one and mine is on the other, we don't even think about "mine" or "hers". We do laundry, we do the dishes, we maintain the cars, and we finish projects together.

Sure, we have some traditional gender role separations generally--usually owing to who the kids prefer to interact with. She's often doing something I can't do or because I'm doing something that she can't do. But even today, she asked me to help her with dinner. I refused, telling her, "No, I will not help you with dinner. We will make dinner together."

Some years ago, I read something similar to this and it monumentally changed my marriage. We were ok before. We're fantastic together now.

Just wanted to add something positive to all the heart break we read about in here so often. Take care everyone, and guys, stop helping your wives.