How many couples have conflicting circadian rhythyms. I've been a night owl my whole life and I am very inconsistent with bedtimes. It does effect the amount of sleep I get but it also allows for some much needed me time. I read, get some work done, pursue creative activities, and of course engage in anonymous social conversation.

My wife is the opposite shes not necessarily an early riser but she's definitely most alive in the morning. She has optimal energy and is most productive during the day. By the evening she's depleted and can't get into bed soon enough.

The problem is that she would also like for me to establish a similar night time routine and get to bed early. I understand why. It really is beneficial to my health and because she is a light sleeper, we avoid having her wake up when I transition to sleep at 12am.

I've tried it before, and I found the way to be consistent with it. I started going nuts because I didn't have that unstructured me time. It added to my stress and depression.

I don't argue about it cause I know she has a point but I really want to march to the beat of my own drum on this one. She essentially says she needs me in bed with her in order to sleep peacefully. It's inconvenient for me but I get it.

Any other married couples have similar situations? How do you work it out?

Curious