She feels I do not contribute enough. Were just about even salery wise. Her sponsibilty is groceries. Everything else is mine. Taxes were 1000 a month, car taxes, insurance (hsa,health home, auto), car payment her car, all utilites, subscriptions for entertainment her and the kids use.

We had to seperate accounts because she kept going way over her budget. I also payed off her maxed out card of 10k out of my 401k.

She still thinks i do not contribute enough. I maybe have 200 every two weeks for me which i have to take care of what i need fpr lunch( consist of broth or sardines) she doesnt buy them in the grocery budget. She buys a ton a junk food that I dont want. I.also need gas which runs about 100 bucks. And i have my own clothes as needed.

Just this week she got paid, paid another credit card 1000 bucks, spent 400 at costco, and loaded up wine and crap and her account is in the red by almost 200. I have 450 in mine, and 400 is a check i made for the cub scouts for two kids that hasnt cleared yet.

How do you handle a spouse who cannot control money and accuses you of the same thing.