I can provide more context if people would like, but I’m just looking for advice or maybe just a place to put my thoughts out there … I (41F) have been married (40M) for 14 years, and it has been a recurring issue that I always feel unimportant to my husband. He makes no extra effort to make our marriage a loving and happy one. He is a nice guy, but that saying of a marriage takes work - I do the work, he reaps the rewards, I beg for anything back from him, he nods along, then nothing changes. We have kids, so I stay. I am a SAHM, we have a stable home, but I just wish more from him. Anyway, whatever .. it was my birthday recently, and again, zero effort by him. He actually made the day worse by being a jerk even though he was ‘just joking’. This was the first time I’ve ever thought of divorce .. in ten years from now, when the kids are moved out, I just don’t think we’ll have any connection left, and the idea of living on my own just seems so peaceful. So my question is, how do you keep putting yourself out there for the good of the family? Anyone who has done this, what did you do to keep yourself happy? Were you able to reconnect with your spouse even after the point of feeling checked out? Thanks for reading.