As the title says, when do you know it’s time? I think we both love each other, we’re just either really difficult people or incompatible. When we were younger, it was exciting to be with someone so different, but now it’s causing us distance.

We’re for almost 8, together for over 15. Things have been very rocky the past two years. The fights have just gotten worse. We haven’t had sex in months, good sex the entire year, but we do cuddle and have some intimacy.

Our marriage is secular, no kids. We got married to be each other’s family and now I’m worried that we’re just wasting our time. I don’t want to waste my life trying to make something work—- is wanting something enough to actually make it so?