I need someone to share to knowledge, opinions, ideas, etc. Im a 30 year old husband and father who works from home, goes to college, and cares for its 2 year old at home as well. I cook, clean and do all the chores needed to have a functional home. My wife is a teacher which works from early 7am and comes back home 5pm, 5 days a week. She constantly mentions how tired she is or sleepy, talks about her work and how her kids did or do, and is very forgetful. Recently for the week of thanksgiving she asked me if she could go visit her grandpa with her aunt but that I would need to stay with the kids. In support I said yes because he is not doing well and I know how much he means to her. Through out this week I took care of my family like any other day. She would call every now and then and would tell me how much she misses me and would send me pictures of how wet she is and how she can’t wait to be back home. That day comes and I surprised her with some toys and a lingerie to go with to have intimacy and have fun. She acknowledged it but didn’t try it the first night back or the second night. We have sex but it felt like just sex to blow some steam, not making love like you miss someone. Then third day in from coming back she gets a call that her grandpa is in the hospital. She is visibly saddened which I understand but then get more information that is his dementia and that he is okay. He dialed 911 but he was fine after test were ran, seems to be a pattern of his to call 911. Wife then calms down. 4th day in since coming back and is our anniversary. I do something by making her dinner and a foot bath, trying to show my appreciation. The night comes and she just goes to bed and says good night. Absolutely nothing to say or do. I get upset but I kept it in. She noticed and the decided to start touching me, I told her I can’t and that I needed to talk to her. I explained to her how I felt, how frustrating it is. I feel under appreciated, I understand she works but marriage is about sacrifice which is something I practice all the time. I do things and don’t expect anything in return but is it bad to want some type of appreciation every now and then. Sometimes I try to initiate sex and she goes by saying really I’m tired or not now. Make one feel not wanted. When I talk to her about she says she doesn’t mean it like that. I feel like I’m going in circles and no solution. She then brought up her grandpa in which I told her he is fine and has nothing to do with this. This is something else and you have been fine. She doesn’t say much when we talk about it, just bits and pieces but don’t really add up. I don’t want to come off as complaining or expecting anything from what I do, I just want be appreciated and cared for as I’m tired too but would not stop me from satisfying my half. We have 2 kids and time is limited for us but when is there I like to take advantage of that and she doesn’t understand this. Is like another day. We have explore swinging too and is fun. I love to see her get pleased but I don’t see it the way around. I want that too. She is not looking for me on this. Idk, I might sound repetitive but I wanted to vent out. I don’t talk to anyone as I work from home. Be nice to be listened.