We had a talk about expectations around sex recently. We dated for 2.5 years. I’m a virgin, he is not. My 32M fiancé agreed to not having sex with me until marriage as I set this boundary. He said he wants me to engage in specific acts like finishing on my face and mouth and to swallow as well. I personally find this to be dehumanizing, degrading and reducing me to an object as he gains power over me. I’m ok with other “usual sexual positions” but this feels beyond me and makes me uncomfortable and not secure. He also said once we are married, “all bets are off” jokingly in casual conversations and “I am his” when making out multiple times. I have a feeling this isn’t right. I can’t tell if he sees me as property. I don’t know if this is what married men truly desire/ have on their minds or if it’s my specific partner’s fetish from watching excessive pornography. He has a high sex drive and likes to be dominating but I see finishing on face and mouth as degrading. Do I set another boundary with him regarding marital consent? Because I feel I should. I don’t want there to be any form of rejection, built up resentment, or contempt brew between us long term. If this is such a big deal to married men that will drive a wedge in our marriage and lead to an end of an marriage, I’d rather set things right and make my exit now.