Last week was the first time I vocalized my desire for a divorce. I shared it with my therapist and she encouraged me to reflect on my feelings for a bit longer. We've been married a year but sex was never a strong area in our relationship. I had hoped it would get better. He's a great man that I think now perceives sex as a chore, but also struggles to express his needs and rarely communicates his desires. I am very enthusiastic about sex, communicative and have found myself playing a more masculine and dominant role in the bedroom, which I don't like, it's actually harder for me to feel aroused now around him, I have to spend a lot of effort getting turned on. I used to downplay the importance of sex, and rationalized staying because on paper we are very good together and we have a very deep friendship and I think he would be a great father. I'm very afraid of divorce because of the shame and disappointment it will bring to our families, and delaying parenthood which is important for me, but I feel a crushing anxiety about our marriage I can't shake. I no longer feel he should have to change for me, as much as I am not able to change for him. That is why I feel divorce is the only option now.

Any women out there that have separated from or divorced due to a dead bedroom? What's life like on the other side?