We've been married 8 years, its been a roller coaster of ups and downs on an almost weekly to monthly basis. We'll be super close for 2 weeks maybe a month and a half, laugh together, talk, best sex etc... Then she turns, gets mean, snippy, short, and loses patience for me very quickly and just distances herself for weeks or sometimes months. If I'm trying to talk and cannot get exactly what I'm thinking out she huffs, if I don't do exactly as she wants I'll hear about it, even if I don't know exactly it is she wants, If I say something she doesn't agree with or think is right in her opinion, I'm looked at and talked to like I'm an idiot. I am the "Affectionate" one, there is almost zero touch by her, but if I don't rub her back, touch her lovingly I don't love her anymore, and if I say you don't at all, well that's a certain fight starter. Then things will go great again for a few weeks and then the cycle repeats. It seems to me that she is picking fights, she has gone into my phone and typed a well known porn site into the address bar and well what do you know, it brought the site up, of course it did. That meant I go to all the porn sites, and that started the most recent "distancing". Sick of constantly looking for validation from her, trying my best to be better, doing EVERYTHING, from all the yardwork, to inside chores while her input is very minimal. She is not the easiest to talk to, and will absolutely blow up if I approach her, I'm being dramatic, I'm being to sensitive, "I'm just in a mood, I cannot be happy all the time". But I'm tired, I love her more than anything, but I'm tired. I have way to much to lose and really do not want a divorce but I'm just tired of this game,