My wife (33) and I (32) have four kids. Ages 9, 7, 4, and 3. She stays home with the kids while I work full time. I got let go from my job last week. I didn’t do anything wrong, it was a restructuring thing. I was let go same day with a little bit of severance. I am obviously scrambling to find another good job so we don’t burn through the severance and have nothing. I landed a two month contract with a company that requires minor travel. Maybe gone 1 to 3 days a week anywhere in the country. She’s mad that she has to be home with the kids because they are a handful. Especially with it now being summer and all four are home.

I feel so angry and unappreciated that she can’t see what I’m doing to keep everything afloat. After I got let go, I still let her make some unnecessary purchases because I knew they were important to her. We just got in a fight about it, and I was just trying to get her to see how much stress I am under trying to provide for us, and she just can’t see past her struggles with the kids.

I don’t even know how to approach this. She hasn’t had to work since like 2016. Her only job is to keep the kids and deal with the house. I am in no way saying that is easy, But why in the world is she giving me “the business” when I’m trying to do whatever I can in the short term to keep our family going.

On top of that, she gets pretty hateful when she’s angry. So I don’t even know how to talk to her at this point. I’m just blown away that this is an issue and I feel so unappreciated.

This is of course, only my side of the story, but I personally don’t feel like it’s slanted my way at all. Not even sure what advice to ask for, I guess maybe just ranting at this point.