Hello Reddit I 18M have a question that will make more sense as the story progresses. The people Involved are Me 18M, my Gf 18F, and my long time friend of 8 years who we’ll call Z 18F.

Now before the story begins I have to give a bit of background info, both Me and Z have lost people recently, for me it was my Grandfather roughly 2 months ago with the funeral taking place last month, and for her it was her brother roughly three weeks ago.

Now recently I’ve been staying to myself never really interacting with anyone outside of my gf who comes over to see me before work or when she’s free and my family. This has Upset Z who believes that I’m avoiding her because of my gf, which is by no means the case and I’ve tried to explain. Well recently Z’s brother died, and I’ve never been the best at helping others cope through or with death, and to be honest I haven’t gotten over my grandfathers death as it’s still feels fake to me.

Now due to this I’ve as mentioned previously been mostly alone besides my family and gf. When I learned Z’s brother had died I gave my condolences and expressed the fact I wished I could help but can’t as I’m not good with death nor understand how to cope myself.

Well one day Z came over with some of her friends and her Baby to hang out with my mom and my sister. Me wanting to be away from the crowd of people and having my own plans simply stayed in my room till my gf came over and we left. I should probably also add that I didn’t know that Z was coming over until she was there and didn’t feel like starting the death talk.

When me and my Gf got back roughly an hour later Z and them were leaving and she was extremely mad at me. She said “We’ll talk Later.” And indeed we did.

Roughly twenty minutes later she sends a paragraph berating me for not wanting to hang out with her and how my girlfriend must be the reason I’m doing all of this. She then proceeded to threaten to fight my gf and exclaim that she doesn’t know what my gf issue is with her, but she needs to get over herself as I’ve known her longer and how she’ll always be there for me unlike my girlfriend. She then proceeded to use some rather profane words to describe my gf.

To that I replied that she must be crazy if she thinks i’ll allow her to talk about my gf like that, and that the only one with an issue is her. She once again rebutted that the issue had to be my gf as I had stopped talking to Z around the same time I started talking to my Gf again. Which was also a few days before my grandfather passed. Except there’s one issue with that, while it’s true we were talking we weren’t together and didn’t get together until Z’s brother had already passed. My gf also doesn’t have an issue with Z and wanted to be her friend.

The reason I had stopped talking to Z then was because I was helping take care of my grandpa, which she would know had she ever tried to reach out to me for anything besides helping her move stuff.

So Reddit WIBTA if I ended a 8 year long friendship for my gf? Because I’m honestly tired of this, and I’ve already set the boundaries for any future relationships but Z’s said no to them.