This post has been de-listed
It is no longer included in search results and normal feeds (front page, hot posts, subreddit posts, etc). It remains visible only via the author's post history.
I'm curious after I saw a tweet from a lawyer on Twitter.
His takehome pay was around RM 8k. However, his allowance to his parents was RM 600.
I'm 23 this year, 1 year out of school and my take home pay is RM3k. I give a monthly allowance RM 650 (voluntarily), given I'm still staying with my parents and still using utilities and having two meals at home. Some days, I take care of the grocery bills and car insurance too.
On my end, I am still able to save up around RM500 each month as fixed savings and I have a good balance of RM100-200 at the end of each financial month.
I've also heard from friends who never had to give allowances but I felt I am a working adult and I could help out slightly with the bills which I am also using.
I'm wondering is this too high? Can this be used better on myself? What are your rates like?
This gonna sound controversial but..
Please be a little more selfish
Whatever you earn is supposed to be for you, and there's no moral duty to provide a portion of it to your parents (there's no harm if you want to give it tho, but it isn't compulsory).
If reading above made you want to come up with: " but they spent money on you while you were a child "
Listen, that's all part of the responsibility that they had signed up for once they got you into this world. You don't owe them anything in that regard.
Your parents have already gotten what they wanted, you. And in exchange for that, they have the duty to raise you well. That's the end of the moral duty 'transaction'.
Okaylah, since you insist on portraying those who don't give money to their parents as "bad people", just because they understand that it's not a moral duty to do so...
no concept of family and parental piety,
Here we are with the gaslighting from the religious who missed the point...
Subreddit
Post Details
- Posted
- 3 months ago
- Reddit URL
- View post on reddit.com
- External URL
- reddit.com/r/MalaysianPF...
I know people have different life circumstances, and some parents ended up struggling although initially they were fine in the beginning. For such case, I have no answer for that.
But, if the parents have ALWAYS struggled even before having you, then it's the parents fault for not doing proper planning.
This proverb comes to my mind: Cut your coat according to your cloth