After having been on Reddit for the past two years, I have a better idea now of what I'm looking for. (though, of course, I'm constantly evolving)

Looking for a long-term chat buddy? What does that really mean? Well, I think for a chat to be long-term, it really boils down to being able to chat about the day-to-day stuff. You can only talk about your past and your aspirations so much. It'll ultimately come down to what you did yesterday or last week or last weekend. So for it to work, you have to be interested in hearing about the other person's day and have a desire to share about your day, knowing very well that not every day is going to be super exciting.

I think it also helps if those who are chatting have a good amount in common. Similar situation (i.e., life stage), similar mindset, similar interests. You don't have to like exactly the same things or even a lot of the same things. But there needs to be enough in common so that there can be some "I totally understand!" or "I can totally relate!" moments.

All that said, if you're looking for someone to chat with on a long-term basis, and my monologue/lecture/spiel above didn't bore you, you might want to consider dropping me a line - but, please, no men. Sorry, but that's my preference. We all have preferences! You do, too! So ...

More about me: I'm Asian, 37, married with kids, in the Washington, DC-area (NOVA - Northern Virginia). My chatting style is mostly penpal-ish, unless you catch me when I have time on my hands or if we're chatting about something riveting. Haha. I'm a former athlete, so I'm in pretty good shape (may sound like an irrelevant detail, but I think it matters to people, though they might not want to admit it). I'm also into sci-fi and crime solving (shows, books, etc.).

So, if you think that you and I might connect well, send me a message! And don't worry about writing a catchy, Pulitzer prize-winning first message. I'm not going to ignore your one-liner. I'm a guy. Our inboxes don't get flooded with messages like those of women. Haha.