Hey everyone,

Last night, I had my first experience with a couple that has never taken part in an MFM experience. To clarify I’ve been with many couples but never a couple completely new to this. It was with an amazing couple I met through the lifestyle, and I wanted to share my thoughts and get some perspective from the community.

Leading up to it, everything felt great. They were a super fun, down-to-earth couple who made it easy to feel comfortable and relaxed. I appreciated how open and respectful they were, and I did my best to approach the whole experience with the same vibe.

When the moment came, I thought things were going well, but I could sense a few moments of hesitation-like they were navigating uncharted territory together. The husband had difficulty maintaining an erection for intercourse, and his wife did her best to help him get there. I suggested we take a break and try again, but I also sensed some jealousy from him, especially as his wife and I were engaging more actively.

To help ease the tension, I tried offering encouragement and even stepped away for a bit to give them some space to reconnect. Despite these efforts, he eventually decided to call it off, asking that we all stop. Of course, I respected his wishes, though it was clear his wife was still interested in continuing. It's totally understandable given this was a new dynamic for them (and for me, too). First experiences like this can bring a mix of emotions, but I can't help but wonder if there was something I could have done differently to make it easier or more enjoyable for both of them.

I’ve made it clear that I’m still here if they’d like to explore again, or even if they want to bring someone else into the mix next time. My main concern is that they don’t let this experience define how they see this kind of dynamic because they’re both such fun and easygoing people to be around.

For those of you who’ve been in a similar position as the single guy: • How do you navigate being part of a couple’s first experience? • Any advice for creating a positive, low-pressure vibe that helps everyone feel more at ease? • How do you handle it when you sense that one or both people might be feeling a bit unsure during or after?

I’m really glad I had the chance to meet and connect with them, and I’d love to keep growing and learning as I explore more in the lifestyle. Appreciate any advice or insights from those of you who’ve been there!

Thanks in advance!