Curious if anyone else has run into this situation: my wife and I occasionally invite a friend over for a threesome. By the time we’re all in the moment, everyone’s pretty much naked or close to it. Sandra’s comfortable with blowjobs, the guys are relaxed about playing with her—breasts, pussy, all of it. No issues with any of that.

Our rules are simple and clear. I am ok with whatever happens as long as she is. Our thirds know this. It's all about her. No one on ones except for short periods. I participate.

Now, if I step out for a few minutes before we head to the bedroom, sometimes I’ll come back to find them in a deep, passionate embrace, kissing like they’re really into it. But here’s the thing: the second they notice I’m back, they pull away, and Sandra especially seems almost guilty or nervous. It’s funny because regular kissing or lighter stuff is fine, but long, intimate kissing suddenly feels “off-limits,” even though I’ve made it clear that whatever Sandra’s comfortable with is completely okay with me. I’ll tell them to keep going, have fun, not to stop for my sake, but it still happens the next time around.

Anyone else experience this? I’m wondering if this is common or if it’s just something about our dynamic.