The more we have spoken to my wife’s friend about the scenario of bringing him in, the more excited we are all getting. But the more we are talking to him, he is naturally submissive, timid and shy and might need some help getting things moving. Is this an appropriate place to step in as the husband?

My wife’s fantasy, which I love, is to have him over for dinner and drinks. While we sit on the couch afterwards, I stand her up, walk her over to him, pass her over to him and encourage him to start kissing her, touching her, undressing her. As I watch them do this, I then direct him to move things into the bedroom where I lead them in before closing the door behind them to give them some alone time to get things started before I join. Would this be a problem if you were the additional party joining us? I don’t want to overstep my bounds but it feels like he lacks the confidence to get things rolling