I (40m) have been trying to get my wife (43f) into the idea of mfm. That mostly has been through toy play so far. (Before you ask, yes I have right out told her my fantasy and so far it’s a no, but she says and does some things that clearly show she at least finds the idea hot)

Last night I had her get on her knees with a blind fold while blowing me, after a little bit I took out a new clear dildo we have not used much, and asked her to suck that too. She only hesitated slightly before, surprisingly sucking it very enthusiastically, while continuing to jerk me off. After a little bit of this fun we moved to the bed in our usual spit roast fun (she will suck me off while I kneel near her head, while I contort myself to use a wand vibrator and dildo to fuck her). She got off so quick as usual with this position moaning hard with my cock in her mouth. After, I moved to fuck her and imagined reclaiming her after she was fucked by someone else, and this got me off soo quickly.

After words I asked what she thought of sucking the dildo and she said it didn’t really so much for her, since it didn’t respond like my cock does to her touch. But if I found it hot we could do it every now and then.

So maybe some progress