My wife and I starting to experiment with the idea of bringing in a third and she wanted to take things slow. She needs to feel comfortable with the other man to enjoy herself vs bringing someone in casually. She has been talking to an old friend for a few months and he understood our fantasy and her requirements and has been very supportive and we have had a lot of fun in the process.

Due to the distance between us, we have been planning a time that works for all of us to get together and play. My wife and I have been getting excited at the prospect of sharing her but it feels like the momentum on his part is slowing down. Without an immediate payoff, it feels like he is losing interest, which is understandable.

Although disappointing, he has helped open her eyes to the benefits of this lifestyle and has really helped her feel desirable and attractive. She is going to discuss her feelings with him tonight to see where he stands and if he is still interested in the scenario. If not, she has become more open to finding a third casually, any advice on where to start looking if we are back in the market?