Hi everyone,

I'm looking for advice from people who might have had similar experiences, as I'm not sure how to handle this situation. I've been with my wife for two years and have a strong fetish for MFM threesomes. There's something incredibly arousing to me about the thought of seeing my wife with another man, either giving him a blowjob or being with both of us at the same time. I kept this fantasy to myself for a long time, but eventually, I felt it was important to be open with my wife about it so that our sex life could be fully satisfying for me.

To ease into the conversation, I first introduced various sex toys into our relationship, including a dildo, with the idea of exploring some role-play scenarios. However, my wife doesn't enjoy dildos at all; she finds them unrealistic and doesn't get any pleasure from them. She only orgasms through clitoral stimulation, not penetrative sex. After a while, when it was clear she wasn't interested in using the dildo, I decided to tell her about my fantasy, explaining that it really turns me on to see her using the dildo, or even just imagining her with another man. Her initial reaction was shock, and she seemed turned off because she thought I actually wanted to have a threesome.

I clarified that it's purely a fantasy and that I have no intention of making it a reality. She understood, and we experimented with her incorporating some dirty talk about being with other men during sex, and using the dildo. However, it's obvious that she's only doing this for my sake and doesn't genuinely enjoy it herself. She has asked me multiple times if I would actually be okay with her being with another man, expressing disbelief that it's just a fantasy because she can tell how much it turns me on. Now, I find myself in a difficult situation: I feel bad asking her to indulge in this fantasy because, firstly, I'm afraid she might think I'm a cuck, which I'm not, and secondly, I don't want to pressure her into something she's not into.

It's really tough because I can't seem to fully enjoy my fantasy without feeling guilty afterward. After we have our role-play sessions, where she pretends to be with another man, I have the best orgasms, but I always regret sharing this fantasy with her during my post-nut clarity. It makes me feel like my standing as a man in her eyes diminishes because of what I'm into.

Do any of you have tips on how I can fully explore this fantasy with her? How can I get her to enjoy the idea of being "used" by two men? It's a big deal for me; I've found that I don't want any other kind of sex now that we've tried this fantasy. I feel ashamed to talk to her about it because she doesn't watch porn and is generally turned off by the idea of threesomes. How did some of you manage to introduce this idea to your wives, especially if they were initially opposed to it? I would really appreciate any advice, especially from women who live this lifestyle and can offer insights on how best to approach this topic.

Thanks for your help!