I have been asked repeatedly by people in chats of how is it we arrived at doing an MFM. That’s a bit of a story… probably the shortened version is just having a lot of communication about what we wanted in the bedroom. At first, I actually brought up that I wanted an FMF, in other words to bring another female into our bedroom. But I noticed every time I watched or read some stuff about MFM’s on either Reddit or in porn. It really turned me on. I noticed every time I would joke to my wife about having another guy in the bedroom and seeing him fuck her or pleasure her I would start to get an erection. But this was never going to be a cuckold scenario because I’m not into that. This was a situation where I wanted to be equally involved with the other guy in both of us pleasuring my wife. And that’s exactly how the first MFM went down. We were both actively pleasuring her at the same time and at different times. It’s really Hard to give you a play-by-play of how everything developed to eventually lead us to doing an MFM. It wasn’t any one thing it was a combination of things but the number one thing the absolutely number one thing was her and I communicating a lot.

For a long time I have joked around with my wife about doing an FMF. She is bi-curious, so I thought that would be the first thing we would do. But finding a single female, or any female to engage with is a lot harder than finding a single male. Finding a single male for an MFM is very easy; weeding out the jerks is the hard part. Just recently, a few months back, we have a reawakening of our sex life. And when we really start communicating with each other about what we needed and wanted in the bedroom, our sex life just exploded. We experienced a closeness, with each other that we really have never known. In the past when I had talked about doing an FMF she always said absolutely not, but now she became open to the idea. And then, when she became open to that idea, I threw at her the idea of an MFM. At first, she was perplexed to say the least that I would want another guy in our bedroom to fuck her. But my primary explanation was, and still is; that I want to see her pleasured. To give her pleasure was also gives me pleasure. I also read stories on Reddit of how women became very sexually empowered, and confident after having an MFM.

The main theme you’ll notice that is repeated here is communication.  So whether you are a man or a woman wanting your significant other to do an MFM with you or an FMF/FFM, having a really good relationship and really good communication is the key.  You absolutely cannot do this from a place where the both of you are not communicating well or you are not getting along very well.  If you start from that position trying to do this, then you will not only fail, but it will probably cause an end to your marriage or relationship.

So getting from there to here it’s really about trust and communication. Trust must be there first and then really good communication to follow.