Preface - I was in a long, monogamous, and very toxic relationship where I had to suppress nearly everything I was interested in as I was ridiculed/shamed by my ex. When I got divorced, one of the first things I did was act as an ice breaker for a couple getting into swinging. Spoke with this great guy, he and his girlfriend came over, and he fingered her while she blew me. It was something minor, but having grown up as someone who had always had gay slurs thrown at him, it was very freeing. It made me feel really comfortable in my sexuality. Since then, I've been trying to date and explore that more but as you all may know, there is no shortage of single men out there looking to do the same.

That's why I'm here - posting this - looking for something new.

The (physical) basics; I'm 38, brown hair, pale blue eyes, 5'8", and a bit of a dad bod (which I'm working on). I'm clean, DDF (420 friendly), and had a sterile. On an endowment scale, I'm pretty average but have been told I'm very thick - think small can of red bull, for size comparisons. I have a very short and neatly kept beard, where glasses, and dress pretty well.

The (intellectual) basics: I'm a bit of a nerd, but not 'your mom's basement' kind of nerd. I have a wide array of interest in tons of topics and can hold a conversation well. I'm educated, witty, and funny - sometimes lightheartedly, sometimes in a sardonic way. I have tons of hobbies both outdoors and in, and love a good puzzle or a good book, as well as a great story through a movie or show. I am a single father as well, so I can empathize with challenging schedules or the trials and tribulations of being a parent. Lastly, due to a public facing job, I do appreciate some level of discretion.

The (sexual) basics: I've found I tend to lean somewhere around pleasure dom/service top. I love giving pleasure and getting a partner off. I'm pretty open minded and into a lot of things - basically, if it gets you off it'll probably do something for me too - but my limits would be blood/scat/breath play, etc. I'm also not a Daddy type - as a father, it's just not my thing, but no judgment. I'd consider myself straight, and would love to find a hotwife type situation where the man either watches or joins, and what happens from there would be prefaced with some discussions.

Ultimately I'd love to get some experience and learn more about the lifestyle, possibly go to a club, etc - but for the time being I'd be really appreciative of finding something safe, fun, and consistent. Show me the ropes, so to speak :)