I was a natural lucid dreamer as a child, I got so good I could easily control my dreams and find the balance between waking up and forgetting I'm dreaming. However, I started smoking weed around 15 years old and stopped remembering most of my dreams except for brief periods of time when I would stop. I've only had maybe 10 lucid dreams since I started smoking

I am 32 years old now and 93 days without drugs or alcohol. My dreams have been vivid and I can remember a lot about them when I first wake up, and in some of them lately I am beginning to realize that something weird is going on, and have resisted "going with the flow" of the dream..but I don't become lucid.

Also, there have been several dreams where I am flying or learning how to fly but even in these dreams, I still don't fully realize I'm dreaming.

One thing I have noticed is that my dreamworld seems vast, I feel this expansive feeling that fades as I awake. if I am in a house, it's a 7 story house with infinite rooms. If I am outside, it's like I can see forever. Cities with impossibly tall buildings, and restaurants that are absolutely gigantic, with multiple floors.
It's never taken this long to lucid dream before when not smoking for extended periods of time...the last lucid dream I had was probably 6 years ago.

I do feel like I am close because of the flying dreams and the realizing that something is off ..but how do I get to the next step? Why am I having so much difficulty despite remembering my dreams again?