Hello everyone, me (21M) and my gf (23F) have been together for a year and a half.

I'm gonna keep it short and simple, during the honeymoon phase we had sex nearly everyday sometimes twice a day, then it slowed down to once a week and she had a UTI and after that it's been anywhere from 1-4 times a month usually during her ovulation week and in the last 4 months we've had sex twice the same day 2 months ago.

We've spoke about it many times and I understand her libido has nothing to do with me it's just how she is wether it is from trauma (sexual and non-sexual), hormones, adhd.... whatever.

I also understand masturbation and sex aren't the same thing because I am on SSRI's and I sometimes have periods of 1 month where i don't feel like having sex at all but still masturbate like 3/4 times a week. And I still find her very attractive.

We both say ours is the best sex we ever had and don't want to stop having it, and we both initiate. But we don't have it very often, or do anything sexual very often. I am definitely higher libido but a lot of times it came from wanting validation and not actually because I wanted to have sex, and I spoke to her about it and I feel very safe in my relationship now so my sex-drive has kinda gone down too since 80% of times I was initiating because I was insecure, my SDI-2 test (Sexual Desire Inventory) gave me 50 out of 100 (0 being asexual, 100 being hypersexual).

I love her a lot and i love just being in her presence and we have a great relationship (no resentment built up, no disrespecting, dedication to eachother, we go on dates often...) and i've actually posted here before and people told me to work on my insecurities so I did it. However I still feel insecure because the thought "we arent having as much sex as were supposed to" keeps popping up in my head, and it's a stupid thought i know but everyone seems so crazy about sex and says things like "it starts with 2 months without sex and then it turns into 1 year, 2 years ......" and that kinda scares me for some reason because they seem so unhappy in their relationships.

Basically i'm asking if anyone has any tips to deal with these thoughts.

Thank you x