My partner just came to me, again saying that sex is making him feel bad. He feels like he's being judged, waiting for the other shoe to drop every time we do it. If I'll be upset with him. He was worried I wanted to leave him.

I don't. I love this man with all my heart, and I felt like we had been growing together and doing so well, especially with sex. I feel terrible that he hasn't felt the same way. He's feeling anxious and judged. He doesn't feel like we have fun with sex anymore. Apparently he hasn't felt like that for almost a year now. All fair points.

I hate that my own struggles with sex and with boundaries have created this in him. I don't know how to move forward - he was not in a place to discuss solutions, so trying to table that for now.

I really thought we were making progress, that things were getting better. I dunno, maybe putting emphasis on my pleasure and me enjoying sex just makes the whole thing too anxiety inducing for him, like having standards makes him feel like he can't live up to them.

Can bedrooms ever really recover? Or do we just keep shifting issues around so that one or the other of us is unhappy? I'm feeling really discouraged today.

Edited: false alarm, apparently. He says we're fine and his anxiety and depression got the best of him. I'm honestly not 100% sure, but what can I do but take him at his word?