I'm disappointed in humanity today.

There was a thread on the main sub about a woman who told her partner that she felt raped when they had sex.

The majority of the comments were all about how they could never look at their partner after they said something like that, the relationship couldn't recover, what a terrible, almost unconscionable thing to say, etc.

Where were those comments a few days ago for the woman who was being constantly pressured and argued and guilted into sex? Those comments were all about being understanding and empathetic towards his perspective.

It really feels, right now, like people feel it's worse to use the word rape than it is to be coerced into sex. My partner had a similar reaction when I told him months ago that I felt our sex was "barely consensual". Not concern for how that would affect me - no, instead shock that I could say something like that to him. Concern that I was going to call the cops.

What is wrong with this world?