Hi, I know this group isn’t as active as others but I thought maybe I should give this a try. I am in a very strange friendship with a male colleague at work for the past 4 years. During the time that we have been having lunch together, he had shared that his wife had an intervention type revelation to him that he has OCPD. I should say we are both married and respect the boundaries of our marraige, we don’t touch, but we do enjoy the time we connect. Which is of course very limited due to his very narrow availability. I’m trying to get over the whole friendship bc it’s causes me despair. While we are close in a way, he really controls the conversations and also goes MIA. He’s very hot/cold. One moment very complimentary and the next Antarctica. I have my own childhood trauma and so while I don’t want to admit it, I’m pulled towards his ultra criticism and rejecting sides. Just wanted to share this different aspect of being close with someone with OCPD, my friend who confuses me.