I will try to make this short:

My bf and I have been dating for just at a year now. Took me awhile to come to the conclusion his love language is WoA, mine happens to be quality time. About 9 months ago he started having an allergic reaction to something at my house. We have tried just about everything to figure out what was causing it. In the end the only solution was that he had to stop coming over to my house. I really took that hard. But we worked through it surprisingly and I would go to his house here and there and things were seeming to get better with his face and our relationship. This weekend, he swears that he felt like he was having a reaction after I left the last time and for the last two nights has brushed me off from seeing me because he is afraid he will have a reaction. My mind immediately goes to the feeling of abandonment and how he won’t ever want to be around me again or he will be too afraid to. I have tried to reassure him that I am not the allergens and what he is saying is just unreasonable. I care for him and don’t want him to have a reaction, but all the same, I feel a disconnect between us, and it wasn’t even anything I did.