I've always said Quality Time was my favorite Love Language. Then second I would say I didn't know... Maybe Physical Touch? I wasn't sure...

Anyway, I've (35 M) have been divorced for 2 years. Towards the end of our marriage, our intimacy really died down. We slept in the same bed, but we used separate blankets (her idea), and she didn't like me touching her or cuddling at night. She would flinch and get pissed if I tried, saying she was ticklish. Also, I would try to hug her from behind or touch her in the kitchen. What I thought was a sweet gesture, she took as annoying because she said she was busy. We would watch movies and rarely cuddle or play with each other's hands. One time, I suggested we have a hug once a day to reconnect with each other at the end of the day. We did for a little but sadly it didn't last... Over time, we didn't PDA in public (being busy with two kids and socializing at events took precedence) and seldom had physical moments of intimacy outside the bedroom.

Fast forward to last night and I met a date. On her online profile she said her Love Language was Physical Touch. With this in mind, I was thinking how I could initiate touch. We had dinner, then we finished and went downstairs to the bar. As we walked down, I grazed her hand then led her to a secluded table with my hand lightly on her back. She lit up smiling after we sat down together and started talking and flirting. I bumped her knee into mine, we held hands and the flirting really escalated. She was smiling and Her hands felt hot! (Mine usually run cold). We shared a kiss. I was usually shy in my past relationships with PDA, but my date last night was so into it that we kept up the physical touch flirting. At one point, I was nervous with the PDA. She told me "It's Ok" and her reassurance felt nice as we held hands.

Maybe I'm rationalizing a great date last night. Maybe I'm finally dating someone who is also Physical Touch. But I really loved the physical touch and I think it's definitely my 2nd favorite language, maybe first. I feel like you can be so creative with physical touch. It doesn't have to be sexual, but it allows for closeness and intimate moments. And both partners get a nice boost of oxytocin. And it's free!