I am lost. I don't know what to do. My husband has been speaking every other love language there is. Working tirelessly to provide for the family. The only thing is the things he says cut so deep and have for so long I am empty. He says I am ungrateful amd I can see where he is coming from. But his primary love language is physical touch and I Cannot get in that mind set feeling like abosulte garbage after all of the fights we have been having. To the point that i have to completely give up on the need to feel loved in order to give him What he needs in the hopes of then feeling love through words of affirmation and for lack of a better term. Him being nice to me.

The problem is I know that I need to do this to save our marriage and our family. But I don't feel sexy or exciting and I have 0 confidence. How do I feel sexy and confident? How do I convincingly fake it until itnis real again?