Hi folks. I have a long distance partner that I have a very close emotional bond with.

Due to circumstances beyond either of our control (visa-related), we can only see each other when I leave the country. He has shared with me that--if it were possible--he would move closer to me in a heartbeat, but he has never pressured me to move closer to him. I love him, but I've always been 100 percent honest that I prefer our relationship long distance.

Since I live on an island in the middle of the Pacific, long distance is no small feat. There is a 12-hour time difference--and 7500 mile actual distance--between us. Despite this, we've been meeting up a couple times a year, and texting and talking every day, for over two years.

Lately this has felt burdensome to me for a number of reasons: Traveling from my island is extremely expensive. I have a job, kids, community, and another partner at home (we are all polyamorous). After our last rendezvous, it's unclear when we can meet up again. It could be up to a year from now, and the idea of committing to that is feeling overwhelming.

I started becoming a bit more distant and distracted lately. He noticed, and we talked about it today, with me basically stating everything I wrote in the prior paragraph.

I didn't break up with him, because none of these reasons feel like enough to justify ending what is otherwise a very healthy, loving relationship. I wish we could just go back to being friends that might occasionally meet up on vacation, without the pressure of committing all my vacation time (and a great deal of my day-to-day time) without knowing when we can see each other again. I love him, and don't want to break up, but I don't see a way forward either.

Would love constructive advice from this very thoughtful group.