Hi everyone. I’m struggling and need some outside opinions.

My bf and I have been together almost 4 years all long distance, though our distance shortened from 10 hours to 1.5 2 years ago. I’ve known him for almost a decade. In the past 6 months I have brought up some issues in our relationship that I would like to see improved, he agreed he would work at it but nothing has changed. I am starting to suffer mentally because I don’t see things changing for the better and I know him, he is stubborn. So unfortunately I think our time together is coming to an end, even though I love him and he is my best friend I am not in love with him anymore.

My question - if you were in my situation, would you make the 90 minute ride to do it in person? Follow up question.. should I let him know ahead of time that I’m coming? I’m really stressed out about this and know it’s going to suck all around, I’m dreading this so much. Thanks in advance everyone.