So while I enjoy meeting a person online with the hopes of meeting in person, over the years I've noticed a trend I (36M) run into with several women. Things always start really good, NRE and what not, it's like we can never stop talking. Then for the other side they just stop communicating properly, I end up getting silence for hours, when I'm sending them funny memes, music I like, etc. I'm well aware that people have their own realities that take their time, family, work, mental health. I'm in no way asking these women to drop everything for me...but when I do voice that I need a little more from them, cuz it's ONLINE, and disappearing/ghosting is a thing I either make them mad and they ultimately leave or the just say "this is who I am and I'm not changing, you should talk to someone else.

I value communication, and it baffles me that they like feeding on my mental stimulus, but when I and basically "bored" by them, and want them to just LET ME KNOW YOU ARE BUSY, or just tell me "Hey, I miss you, sorry about this, here's something I thought was cool" is like the worst thing possible to them. It's like I'm not suppose to point out their short comings. When I communicate my needs, they see it as just criticism and they get offended or they get sad and say I should just find someone else.

Does anyone have stuff like this happen? I'm all for trying for people, I don't like giving up, there is always a solution to me. But I value my own mental health, and when it's becomes this issue for me, voicing it triggers the person to leave the potential relationship, instead of just saying "I'm sorry, let's try harder for this."